May 9, 2014 by Nama
Experiencing and navigating the road of racial diversity in our safe little white, white, white world has been one of the biggest learning curves adoption has brought us. We are ever grateful for the opportunity to learn more about the joy and pain of diversity through the gift of our Blessing. The beauty of being a multi colored family is something we will likely write about often. We are at the very beginning of this curve, we are new, we are learning and we make mistakes. We look forward to a lifetime of refining and growth. We pray we are becoming the light of racial harmony our Lord’s Word commands. Just two of the many questions we are asked that deserve discussion are; Do you believe racial issues still exist in our culture ? and Have you personally felt and experienced racial unkindness ?
For now i want to share the simplest and truest answer we have found for navigating the very real tensions of being a multi colored family. My intend is not to minimize the reality of racial tension in our culture or the very real and deep pain of our African American brothers and sisters. This is a tough, complex, messy, sensitive and emotionally charged issue. We have to start somewhere, this is the bedrock of truth that we return to in the twists, turns, questions and hurts that arise.
I Corinthians 13~The Love Chapter
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
“Some white people Hate black people, and some white people Love black people, Some black people Hate white people, and some black people Love white people. Some white people Hate white people, and some black people Hate black people. So you see, it’s not an issue of black and white, it is not an issue of race, it’s an issue of Lovers and Haters.” ― Eden Ahbez
From The Help
“Once upon a time they was two girls,” I say. “one girl had black skin, one girl had white.”
Mae Mobley look up at me. She listening.
“Little colored girl say to little white girl, ‘How come your skin be so pale?’ White girl say, ‘I don’t know. How come your skin be so black? What you think that mean?’
“But neither one a them little girls knew. So little white girl say, ‘Well, let’s see. You got hair, I got hair.'”I gives Mae Mobley a little tousle on her head.
“Little colored girl say ‘I got a nose, you got a nose.'”I gives her little snout a tweak. She got to reach up and do the same to me.
“Little white girl say, ‘I got toes, you got toes.’ And I do the little thing with her toes, but she can’t get to mine cause I got my white work shoes on.
“‘So we’s the same. Just a different color’, say that little colored girl. The little white girl she agreed and they was friends. The End.” emphasis by Nama
Baby Girl just look at me. Law, that was a sorry story if I ever heard one. Wasn’t even no plot to it. But Mae Mobley, she smile and say, “Tell it again.”
― Kathryn Stockett, The Help
As we share our journey there may be terminology, references and stories relayed that do not fit your understanding of racial harmony. We would love to answer questions and try to give understanding where that is possible.
We can assure you that our hearts, actions and words are rooted in the Love of our Lord and Saviour for All His Children, red, brown, yellow, black and white, for they are precious in his sight.
“In Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith. . . There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
When our hearts were called to Liberia Africa ten years ago we suspected there may be some sweet little truth of racial harmony seen in the making of this new Fischer family. The tensions that arise and the message that is being written is much louder than we ever could have foreseen. We are honored to be a part of HIS story of healing and love.
Our world without our Blessing would be as wrong as a chocolate chip cookie without the sweet, rich dark morsels of deliciousness that makes it exactly what it was intended to be.
We pray and expect that the diversity of our family will continue to grow. We pray that it is all about His Love for His children. All glory and honor is His alone.