When Tim’s Away

November 11, 2014 by Nama

Trusting my only Big Brother will have the best birthday so far in his 53 years. Happy Birthday Jon, it is an honor to do this thing called life with a man such as you.

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We baked our first Christmas Cookies last night, which was 1. Fun, 2.Sad, because it was our Kaydra’s idea and by the time we got around to it she, being a 4:30 am barista, was so exhausted she had no fun. 3. Proof that Blessing and Cody together with utensils and flour are trouble…always!! 4. Pretty much perfect timing since it did This…. Continue reading

Travis and Melissa’s Adoption Update

june 14, 2014 by Melissa reblogged by Nama

This is a post our Melissa put up on their Blog yesterday.  i am reposting it for a few reasons. 1. Namafish is primarily a testament of our Lord’s faithfulness for our children and their children.  The kid’s adoption journey is a big part of what our Lord is doing in the Fish Pond.  2. Having lived the joy of adoption through bringing home our Blessing this Nama could not be more excited for the addition of this little Fish to Travis and Melissa’s home and to our Fisch Family.  Adoption Rocks!  Adoption is a beautiful snapshot of our Lord’s redemption, if i am passionate, i HAVE to share, there is no option.  3.  Our kids have committed to something big here, as most of you have seen in my Nama posts Travis and Melissa have two gorgeous, healthy biological kids.  They could take the more known path and build their family through biological birth.  They are choosing adoption, the financial and emotional cost is high.  Travis and Melissa are choosing this path not because they “need” a child but because there is a mamma and a baby who need His Hope, who need His Love, who need the security and promise and forever of a family.  Travis and Melissa are postponing much earthly comfort and security to invest in a little life that doesn’t have a “backup” plan or an insurance policy to cover all the expenses.  If just one person reads their journey over here and commits to pray for HIS perfect direction and provision in bringing Travis and Melissa’s 3rd baby home, then that is exactly why i am posting their journey over here.  You can get to know Travis and Melissa much deeper by clicking on the “Second and final home visit!” link below.  If your heart is tugged, please commit to pray for Travis, Melissa, Kingston, Raena and their third little Fish as we watch the Lord write HIS story of making them a family of 5.  Please read Melissa’s exciting update.

SECOND AND FINAL HOME VISIT!

June 13, 2014

This week we completed another huge step in our adoption process! We had our second and final home visit with our social worker for our home study. This means we are {pretty much} home study approved! I say pretty much because our social worker still has to finish writing our report, and then she has to pass it along to her supervisor. However, we have done everything we need to do, and she told us at the end of our visit Saturday that we are approved! The rest is just crossing the t’s and dotting the few remaining i’s.

I can’t begin to tell you what a relief it was when our social worker spoke those three words to us, “you are approved.” I think I must’ve been feeling more stress about it than I thought because it felt like this HUGE weight had been lifted off of me. It feels so good.

The second home visit was a bit different than the first. We spent the first portion of the visit receiving some adoption training from our social worker. This included information on grief/coping with failed adoptions, a bunch of books, websites and other adoption resources, lists of community activities adoptive families can take part in, information about how adoptive children process adoption and at what ages they will experience various stages of processing, medical information for children exposed to drugs or alcohol, the legal documents that will be filed throughout the process, what the process will look like from here on out and much more. It was very insightful to talk through these things with our social worker. She has experienced so many different situations in her career, and she was able to give us real and practical information.

After we completed our training, we did the walk through of our home to make sure all of the safety requirements were met. If you were wondering, yes, we locked up our knives and medicines and changed our child locks. We bought fire extinguishers and that earthquake kit we’ve been meaning to purchase for four years. If nothing else, Travis is grateful this home study forced him to finally prioritize buying that kit.

After the inspection {which we passed with flying colors}, we moved on to individual interviews. This was the most in depth portion of our interview process. Prior to our first visit, we had filled out a series of questionnaires. These questionnaires covered a multitude of things from family history to how our parents raised us to what our relationships with our family members are like to Travis and my relationship with each other to how we parent our children. At our first visit, we turned these questionnaires in to our social worker. Since then, she reviewed them, and during our individual interviews we addressed any questions she had about our answers as well as filled in any gaps that were unclear.

This was the portion of our home study that I felt our social worker gathered the most information about us. We knew that the homestudy would take an in depth look into family history, but we were surprised to find out how extensive it was. She were very thorough finding out information about our family members and extended family members. This information spanned from medical history to lifestyle choices to illegal activity. I think the point of it all is they want to know who our child will have contact with when he/she is a part of our family. Nonetheless, we were caught off guard how far outside of our nuclear family she gathered information and how much time we spent talking through all of that.

After we finished our interviews, we turned in our last few remaining items of paperwork. We talked through what the next steps in the process would be. Then our social worker uttered those sweet, sweet words, “you are approved!” {Praise the Maker!}

SO, what happens now? Well, the home study was probably about ⅓ of the entire adoption process. Now that we have that done, we will start submitting applications for grants and loans in order to finance the rest of this process. Then we will start applying to agencies and presenting our family profile book to birth moms which will {hopefully} lead to a match sooner rather than later!

AGH!! Things are getting real! And it’s SO exciting!!! {and a little bit crazy}. Please keep praying for us as we continue to move forward. It feels like things are moving fast, but we are trusting the Lord’s timing and that He will sovereignly work out all of the details. Also, please be praying for our baby and birth mom. We don’t know who they are yet, but there is a good chance that by now our child has been conceived. Pray for their hearts, health and safety. We treasure them so deeply and pray the Lord’s protections over them everyday. We can’t wait to know them.

 

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 We just can not wait to see Who our Lord has added to this mayhem by the end of  2014!

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Nama loves every word of this! We pray for His supernatural provision for the finances to bring your third baby home. We know your family could have chosen to move forward with a third biological child, meaning insurance would have provided the funding for the majority of those expenses. Yet you have chosen to trust our Lord to provide a home and family for a tiny life that does not have other options. You have said yes to giving a birth mamma the hope and promise of love and security for her little life. The call on your hearts is not in vain, He will bring to your home the child he has planned as your third little Fish and He will provide all that is required to complete that process.

Tylor Jerome Fischer~26

Our Tylor is 26 today.  Tylor brings a very calm, quiet joy to our family. He isn’t so much quiet as he is settled.  Tim and i often say “Ty is just happy and his Tiff is just dancing, they make this journey of life look so easy.”

Tylor is a man who is content, everyday holds all the magic he really needs, his little girl’s new word of the day or exploring a new twist to an old hymn is really all the adventure he requires.  Tylor lives in the moment, he treasures the details of now, he appreciates what he has and knows that somehow there will be enough for tomorrow also.

Ty and Tiff recently drove out to our home (13 minutes tops) for an evening walk to our little park.

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Ty had his camera, he should carry it more often, it is kind-of heavy.

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A day later Ty Facebooked me a set of images.

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These images capture exactly how Ty lives his life.

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 No posing, not a lot of planning, nothing staged or contrived.

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” Walk to the park with a few of those I treasure and flick the shutter as life is happening.”

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Finding the beauty and magic in the oh so ordinary.  (Finley’s first “Bugle Fingers” and Nama saying “show your mamma.”)

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This girl loves her Ble Ble.

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And her Pappa

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This girl fills our life with everyday sunshine.

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That little black fuzz ball up ahead gives Tim + Blessing much joy and me…..we’ll leave that alone.

Thanks Ty for capturing the beauty of our Everyday Extraordinary.

Thanks for being a man who makes seeing the beauty easier for all those around you.

We are very proud of how you live your life and care for your family.

Have an amazing fun filled day, i guess you probably don’t need your mamma to tell you how to do that.

Happy Birthday Tylor Jerome, we love you!

Parker Gregg Fischer~22

june 10, 2014

He was 16 days late, the most adorable baby EVER with those big brown eyes and perfectly round face, he is the only one of our biological children with any of my coloring.  Parker has mamma’s brown eyes, all the other kids + Parker’s hair = all blondies and blue eyes.

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Parker is the third of three sons. He has spent his entire life proving he knows “something”, and that he is also able to do “that”.  Birth order is amazingly influential.  Scrapping his way to the top of the “Fischer men” heap along with a personality exploding with tenacity provides an ” I can do it”  spirit that shows in all Parker takes on.

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There was early foreshadowing of the kind and gentle man Parker was created to be.   He is exceptionally considerate and caring towards others. (with little sissy Kaydra)

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Parker found a beautiful girl and snatched her up before anyone else had a chance.

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Our Little Timothy, named for Pappa is the most recent blessing that has come to us through the gift of our Parker 22  years ago.

Happy 22nd Birthday Parker Gregg, you are a blessing beyond measure.  We are honored to be called mom and dad by such a man as you.  Your Uncle Greggy would be so proud of  the gentleman who carries his name.  Have an amazing day celebrating the gift of YOU with your sweet bride and baby boy.

Blessed~Our Clan

may30, 2014 by nama

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One of the big challenges that came with adopting when our first four children were older has been the change it brought to our family structure.  When Blessing came home at 15 months old our first four were 10, 13, 17 and 18.  That was easy, an adorable new baby fits anywhere and causes little adjustment to relationships.  As Blessing grew and became more active, boisterous and creative the adjustments it has required  have been more measurable and at times “costly” than we had foreseen.  Our adult children rarely get “adult” time with mom and dad.  There is not a lot of sitting in the quiet living room, sipping something and talking deep theology here, or when the conversion does go deep,  Blessing is not easily included, there is no pack of playmates to run with while the adults are all serious.  Our adult children have to parent with a busy, filled with ideas 10 year old in the mix every time they bring their babies to Nama and Pappa’s.  We are their babies’  Grandparents, at the very same time we are also Blessing’s parents.  When they spat, or don’t want to share or Blessing walks off with their newborn as if he is a dress up dolly our adult children have to process their reaction and how they handle those things through many blurry filters.

One of the biggest blessings we get from the gift of adding a tiny to our home so late in life is watching the generations work it out and do life together.  Everyone has to be less self focused.  Everyone has to consider additional layers of needs and desires.  Everyone gets to give a little more.  Everyone gets to learn and grow and know the blessing of  HIS refinement in a deeper way.

Blessed to be a nest with so many layers of Love built into it.

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This series of pictures makes me smile.  Watch the moving relationship.

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 This is our third son Parker with his newborn Timothy building girl Legos with Blessing.

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Timothy !

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Blessing… “Hmmmmm  ‘.

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      “I don’t quite get it.”

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 “Ohhhhhh, I see.”

I love Lego Friends (girl Legos), where were these when our first princess was little?

Photo Tip: Because as you have noticed, i am such a pro ; ),  take a series of 10-20 pictures of the exact same frame.  The capture of still shot relationships can be so much more fun than a video.

We send our California three back to their daddy and husband tomorrow, there will be lots of grandbaby+ Aunty fun here today, Pappa took the day off.